Is it possible to see Solitude as Freedom rather than a state of sadness and melancholy? To be able to understand what Solitude means, we need to know that the human being feels alone because he lacks a very close contact with his self. This is the inference.
Solitude should be absolutely relative, and it has been said many times, because we are a part of a Whole which excludes Solitude.
To feel alone means that there is still a part of us that has not been absorbed, and our interior self is not in perfect harmony. This is how melancholy takes over, sometimes even apathy, where one sees only the uselessness of Life.
To be able to see the value of Solitude with characteristics of Freedom, is a prerogative of those in harmony with themselves.
The first thought is this: if I live in a situation of Solitude, why does Life want me to be alone? You don’t have to ask yourself why, just accept the Reality of it, and try to live it in the best way, without giving in to melancholy thoughts.
To be alone can be both a drawback and an advantage. As each case is different we will not go into the practical side, we will consider the emotional factors.
Emotional sensitivity is superficial when linked to the personality and the Mind. In these cases Solitude is considered in an external way as something missing, a truncated, unfinished part. This is because the input of the personality, i.e. the Mind is always in the plural.
Then there is the emotional side which is profound and linked to the Energy. In this case, Solitude is a real necessity because connection with other people can lead to expressing that part of our Personality which needs to be brought under control through Solitude.
When we are alone we behave in one way, and in company often we behave differently.
It is trite to say that there is a reason why Life puts us in a state of Solitude.
When we have not chosen Solitude, but it is the result of what Life and Fate has in store for us, we must remember that these Forces never intend to harm us, the situations they offer us, are what is right for us.
This is also an exercise: there is Freedom in our actions because we do not have to explain or justify them, and subject ourselves to other peoples demands or impositions.
When we become completely aware that we are part of the Whole, we live a kind of Solitude that could cause suffering on the personality level, but we can control our emotional state, because within us there is Harmony. In this way we see Solitude as Freedom. Who is deeply affected by Solitude tries to attract someone or something to fill the empty space.
At this point we need to make a distinction between our many different readers because it is the intention we use to attract situations that is the key. When our intention is to unconditionally accept what Life sends us, but also to find a way to make the situation less of a burden, our intention will successfully attract a person or event that will help us to feel less lonely. However, when our intention is to avoid what Life offers us, experiencing great anger, living it as an injustice and a form of punishment, we will attract situations that will create even more Solitude for us, even if paradoxically we will not be alone.
My advice is this: always try to live Solitude as a relative, passing situation. It is important not to consider age or social standing or condition, just to think that at this moment, your Reality is Solitude, and it has happened because it is beneficial for you.
Let us try to enhance it as a moment of great responsibility towards ourselves, and a chance to deepen the knowledge of our Self.
Precisely because this Self does not have to subject himself to another Self, we can improve the understanding of ourselves.
When the period of Solitude ends, we can be thankful for what Life has given us, convinced that every moment of our lives is regulated by our Energetic needs and not by the needs of our Personality.
It is very important to make these distinctions, because often we try to resolve a situation of Solitude that seems incomprehensible to us, and we risk attracting situations that make us feel even lonelier. Doing this, we lose contact with our selves and the opportunity to use Solitude as an important evolutionary moment.