Here we are going to talk about a very delicate subject because we have been educated to treat other people often at out own expense.
In practice, if we behave like this, we make ourselves unhappy, and most of all we make the people near us unhappy too. Obviously if we do something without being really convinced, but only through education or duty, then we will expect something in exchange.
A healthy Egoism is nothing else but the knowledge of ourselves.
We must listen to our Instinct, remembering that it is the Voice of our Energy(different from the urge that inspires us when faced with a situation) suggesting what we should do.
Every decision we make listening to our Instinct is the right one for us.
The objections to this statement is “ I can’t follow my Instinct if this makes someone suffer”
So I decide to be unhappy myself rather than make someone else unhappy.
However this is nonsense, because if I am not serene myself how can I expect those nearest to me to be serene?
Let us remember that we hurt others when we freely decide to do so, when in our behavior there is the desire to hurt.
If though, I act because I am intimately convinced that it is the right thing to do, my intention is not to hurt, and if in doing so I make the person near me unhappy, that person must try to understand the real significance of the experience and find the strength to react.
This is a very coherent way of how to live authentically without hypocrisy.
Life is not devious, it doesn’t give you a discount, therefore if we sacrifice ourselves for another, we must be prepared to go ALL THE WAY, and joyously too without expecting anything in return.
If our actions are subject only to what society, education or other people expect of us, we are taking a path doomed to failure.

How can we be sure that we are behaving with a Healthy Egoism and not for our own interests?
The serenity that comes from our actions, without anger or revenge towards the other person.
We must always be aware that Life does not abandon anyone, and if we do not feel motivated to intervene in a certain situation, this does not mean that the event will be without a solution. It is Life that must intervene to help in the most suitable way.
Through the Instinct, Life suggests what is right for each one of us.
If the need to be involved doesn’t spring to our attention, it is obvious that Life will use other ways to help that situation.

To sum up, let us remind ourselves to only and always trust our feelings, without mystification, accepting them with sincerity and awareness.